"dessert-ed" relationships

"dessert-ed" relationships

Ice Kachang. Honeydew Sago. Bo Bo Cha Cha. Red Bean Paste. Desserts-hot or cold, something you have after a meal which adds a finishing touch to your satisfaction. The icing on the cake, probably, to some who frequently join the crowds at wedding dinners or even others who splurge freely on 10 course meals. Relationships-just normal friendships, aquaintances or probably intimate ones, a bond shared between two or a group of people.Relationships, are similar to desserts.

Both are similar because for a dessert, people are willing to queue just to buy them while for relationships, people try all sorts of ways to get into the relationship. for example, whenever me and my family goes down to this particular hawker center, we would see a queue at the dessert stall and people do not mind queueing for it cause they sell nice and cheap desserts. As for relationships, whether they are boy-girl relationships where people try as hard as they can to get the attention of the other party, to captivate them, or be it just normal friends where people talk to each other, understand each other and listen to each others problems, both kinds of relationships require some sort of a sacrifice. Just like standing in a queue waiting for the dessert, you sacrifice. Therefore the similarity is where in both issues, people "want" them and are willing to sacrifice for them.

They are similar because both exists in either hot or cold states.For example, desserts like sweet potato soup or red bean paste are desserts which are hot whereas desserts like ice kachang as its name implies, is cold.on the other hand, relationships are also like desserts. A "hot" relationship is when both parties feel close to one another, where the bond shared is thick and you feel glad that you have established such ties which one another. however, sadly to say, a "cold" relationship is one which consist of a weak bond between the people, one where the relationship is being reduced to something of an aquaintance or what layman might say, "hi-bye" friends. certainly, some relationsships that are "cold" don't just become cold just like that. for example,a bowl of soup left on the table starts off hot, nice and warm, if consumed then would be definitely pleasurable and satisfying. however, if the bowl is left there too long a period of time, it will soon turn into, what mothers would usually call, "stone cold" and the soup will not taste as nice as before. similarly,every relationship starts off "hot" and slowly turns cold as it is being left on the shelf, where communications slowy dies of and gradually becomes non existant. Therefore, relationships are similar to desserts because both exist in two "temperatures".

I also realise that the relationship that one shares with GOD can also become hot and cold or worse still lukewarm. hot, when one's close to GOD, talks to GOD every day, prays and read HIS word daily. cold, when one shuts GOD out of his life. lukewarm, when one is sometimes like this and like that, half-half. revalations 3:15-16, 15 I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! 16 So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

"Cold" relationships are somewhat being deserted. the relationship is being left behind, where both parties do not indulge in it or communicate in it, where the relationship is left there to fossilize. Or perhaps, a bond that is deserted is one tt is being neglected. if relationship was a place, a "cold" relationship is a deserted area.

well, it definitely hurts when one thinks upon the past bonds that are being left on the book shelf to accumulate dust. thinking upon the times where the relationship was "hot" definitely makes one feel regretful to see the relationship that is currently rotting like a ripen fruit left on the pavement.Therefore, if you are currently sharing a "hot" relationship with someone, keep it this way, don't let it turn into a "cold dessert-ed" relationship. i am not saying that cold desserts aren't nice but i am just saying that cold relationships aren't good.

it makes you feel unseen, unheard, like a ghost floating to nowhere. it makes you think and think obssessively. it makes you churn stupid essays like this. it makes you ask questions. it makes you feel lousy and silly. it makes you regret.

















































however, if a relationship has fallen too deep into the abyss, i would rather choose to let it go, pray and ask the love of GOD to fill me and heal the wounds that are still left open.

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